Motherhood. When does that begin? Is it the moment you find out you’re pregnant or is it the moment you give birth and hold your baby in your arms for the first time?
The first thing I know about motherhood is that from the moment you find out about your child you would do anything to protect them and make sacrifices for them without a second thought. You sometimes don’t realise this until they’re here but your whole outlook on life and your priorities change. Completely and utterly. Life gets a whole new meaning.
Number 2; your whole life changes. It becomes a whirlwind of happiness, chaos, bliss, frustrations- basically an emotional rollercoaster. You can’t plan or predict anything, nothing is guaranteed other than the fact that despite the lows the highs will always outweigh them. You will also cry at anything and everything.
Number 3; Some days will be shit. Like proper shit. And really tough, so tough that you want to throw the towel in but you can’t. And then that little face will look at you and you’ll just want to smother them in cuddles and kisses. Your heart will hurt with so much love that it will feel like it’s going to burst out of your chest… You will often get that feeling when your children are sleeping…!!
Number 4; The people you thought would be part of your child rearing journey may not actually be. Time plays a massive factor in this, as does conflicting opinions or a different outlook on life. Child free friends wont always get ‘it’ and you don’t have the time, patience or energy to encourage them to get ‘it’. Which leads me on to
Number 5; Your baby and then child will suck every ounce of energy from you. You know when you feel so tired you’re like a zombie? Well multiply that by ten… and then double it!! You no longer have time for meaningless confrontations- i.e. confrontations with anyone outside of your household UNLESS they are in some way affecting your children… Then Mama Lion comes out roaring to protect her pride.
Number 6; It doesn’t matter how you parent, someone will ALWAYS have an opinion on it… and tell you their opinion regardless of if you want it or not! Ignore judgement, take positive comments (and keep them stored up because you will need them on the tough days) and just do your thing- a happy mum often means happy kids and happy kids make mums life easier- up to a point of course!!
Number 7; Asking for help doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it means you’re normal. And you will need help, so take it if it’s offered- but only if you want to. Don’t feel like you have to accept help from people that you don’t feel comfortable doing so just because its being offered.
Number 8; Nipping to the shops or just leaving the house in general will take five times as long as it used to, and as it should do!!
Number 9; Motherhood has taught me an awful lot about myself! It has taught me about my strengths, my weaknesses and how strong I am as a person. It has taught me that some things are worth stressing about and others just really aren’t. It has taught me a massive amount about other people and reminds me to stay true to myself. It has taught me about what kind of person I want to be and what kind of role model.
and lastly, but most importantly
Number 10; The main thing that motherhood has taught me is what it is to feel strength like no other and a fierce love that I never imagined I’d ever find. A love that is so strong that I’ve never known love like it. The rush of relief, pride and that love I felt the first time I held my babies, well nothing in this world compares to that and probably never will.
Motherhood turned my world upside down and inside out. It changed my life in ways I never thought possible. I wouldn’t change it for the world ♥